What's been weighing on you?
i finally told a close friend something i'd been holding back, something that felt big to admit, and they read it and didn't reply. it's been two days. now i'm lying here certain i overshared and made it weird, replaying exactly what i said and wishing i could take it back.
Finding the angles...
Three angles. The situation is the same. It just got lighter to hold.
How it works
- 01Share what’s been weighing on you.
- 02Get angles: other ways to hold what you’re carrying.
- 03Go deeper on the ones that land.
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Share what's weighing on you
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Say as much or as little as you like
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Get angles that lighten the load
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Go deeper on the ones that land
Different
The situation is real. But the weight you're carrying around it, the story you're telling yourself about what it means, is often heavier than it needs to be.
Sidelit doesn't tell you what to do. It doesn't take sides. It offers different ways to hold the same situation, specific to what you shared, grounded in why that angle applies to you. Usually, seeing it clearly is enough to start setting it down.
Care
Every angle has one job: to help you set something down. It doesn't fix the situation or tell you what to do. It takes what you're already carrying and offers it back lighter to hold.
So every angle is built from your exact words, never a script written for someone else. It comes from beside you, not from above. It's made with care for the version of you holding this alone at 2am, when there's no one awake to hand you another way to see it.
Privacy
We don't know your name. We don't know your email. We have no way to contact you.
What you share is processed to generate angles, then kept only while your account is active. Delete your account and it's gone immediately.
Read the full policy →The science
Grounded in published research on how people change the way they see things.
Ways of seeing: mapped by research, not guesswork
Ziems et al. identified the approaches that consistently help people see a situation differently when they are under pressure. Each one opens the same situation without closing it. This research is the foundation every Sidelit angle is built on.
AI can reframe. Structure is what makes it work.
HealMe found that AI given specific approaches to seeing a situation consistently outperforms AI given generic instructions. The shape of the angle matters more than the model behind it.
Under pressure, people fall into the same story patterns
Crucial Conversations research shows that people under pressure default to villain, victim, or helpless stories. Finding the story underneath the reaction is where things actually shift.
Alternative stories, not solutions
The story you are telling yourself about a situation is rarely the only one available. Finding others gives you more ways to hold it without telling you what to do. The goal is to hold more, not arrive faster.
Seeing differently becomes a habit
The habit carries over. People who practice seeing a situation differently start doing it on their own, well beyond the moments where they first learned to.
Plans
Free
- 5 sessions a week, no account needed
- Full-quality angles every session
- Sign in free for 12 sessions a week, history, and richer context
- Top-up packs: 10 extra sessions for $0.99
Always free
Pro
- Unlimited sessions
- Expanded angles: more ways to look at every session
- Go as deep as you want on any angle
- Linked sessions: build on what you've already explored
- More of your history shapes each new angle
- Top-up packs for heavy weeks
- Pattern insights across your sessions coming soon
$2.99 / month